My name is Andrew “Jimmy Sol” Young, and I had the privilege of being married to an incredible woman for nearly 20 years. Over the course of those years together, we experienced some incredible highs and some miserable lows, but I always believed our marriage was something worth fighting for. So I fought to hold onto the title of husband.

But I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

It wasn’t until we were 15 years in that I started reading the Bible. It wasn’t until year 16 that I started praying for and with my wife. I started listening to podcasts, reading books, and going to therapy to work on healing some of my childhood trauma. I knew I needed to become the kind of husband my wife needed and the man God intended for me to be before He formed me in my mother’s womb.

But so much damage had already been done, including committing adultery, which is incredibly difficult to come back from, especially when you don’t yet have the wisdom, healing, or maturity needed to navigate that restoration process. So despite my best efforts, on August 20th, 2024, my marriage ended in divorce.

I never wanted a divorce.

I hate divorce with a passion. I hate the devastation it causes families, the confusion, the insecurity, the financial strain, and the impact it has on children. I love the family unit. I miss waking up with my daughters every day. I miss sitting on the couch with my wife watching shows I didn’t even like.

There’s so much I wish I would’ve done differently.
So much wisdom I wish I had sooner.

So instead of allowing the loss of my marriage to result in endless “could’ve, would’ve, should’ves,” I decided to take the lessons I’ve learned and the passion I have for helping others avoid the devastation of divorce and use them to help people win at marriage.

I started sharing biblical wisdom for marriage online and with close friends and family, and I’ve watched these principles help people fight for their marriages with greater wisdom, humility, discipline, and love.

That’s why I wrote Fight For It.

Not because I got everything right.

But because I’ve experienced the consequences of getting it wrong, and I want better for you. This book is filled with wisdom I had to bleed for in hopes that you won’t have to.

And while I can’t promise this book will magically fix every marriage, I KNOW the wisdom in these pages can help train you to fight differently, love more intentionally, and build a stronger foundation rooted in biblical truth.

But don’t just take my word for it.

Below is the foreword written by my friend and boxing trainer, Coach Leaf Steurnagel, one of the first people to apply many of the principles taught in this book.